Sexual Fantasy - The Risk of Fantasizing About Sex

March 2, 2010

Sexual Fantasy - The Risk of Fantasizing About Sex

Sexual fantasy is as common as day. Television, movies, and magazines bombard us daily with sexual scenes. These scenes get stuck in people’s memory and eventually result in endless routines of sexual fantasizing.

Is there any risk in sexual fantasy? Is fantasizing about sex okay?

That question is pertinent because many ‘experts’ claim that it’s perfectly okay to fantasize about sex. In their expert opinion, fantasizing about sex merely results in harmless sexual release.

But are these self-acclaimed experts correct? Or is there more to sexual fantasy that meets the eye?

Let me be honest with you.

Fantasizing about sex doesn’t just end with masturbation. It goes way beyond that. Ultimately, it affects your relationship with your mate and your continued chastity.

How can this be? Is this some exaggeration to frighten you?

No, it isn’t.

To understand the risk sexual fantasy poses, let’s examine the range of sexual fantasies people often have.

So I ask the question: what do you fantasize about?

You likely fantasize about . . .

1. A sexual relationship with your boss or your subordinate. She has curves in the right places. She has a burging breast or a surging back side. So you wonder how it would feel like to touch or even . . .

2. A sexual relationship with the girl next door. If only you were not married, she would have been the perfect woman for you. She’s got everything your wife lacks.

3. A sexual relationship with your family’s house maid. If only she was not a house maid! Now, how would you tell your parents you’re in love with your maid?

4. A sexual relationship with your friend’s wife. If only she was not married to your friend she would have been the perfect flirt mate.

5. A sexual relationship with same sex. You’ve read a lot of gay stories. So you wonder how it would be like to actually have a gay relationship. What do gays find exciting about same sex relationships anyway? you wonder.

First, you wonder. Then you get some gay friends just out of curiosity. Then you fantasize with the idea of gay sex. Then you . . .

I cannot begin to list all the weird sexual fantasies people have. There is no limit to the evil twist the be-deviled mind can conjure up.

However, our concern here is not how long the list of sexual fantasies is. It’s the impact it has on your relationship with your mate.

To illustrate, consider Julius’ case.

Julius was a senior manager in a brewery conglomerate . . . one of the biggest in my country. He was an impressive brewer . . . the head brewer . . . and head of department of the brewing team. He was well read and highly educated.

He had everything under control except the relationship with his wife. His wife was a lawyer and they were always in one conflict or another. Eventually, he had to send his wife packing along with his kids.

Soon the real reason for the repeated conflict with his wife started to manifest.

Julius was gay. As if that was not bad enough, he lost control of his sense of decency. Rumors had it that he even had sexual relationships with the company security guards posted to his residence.

This was a real mess because he lived in the company residential quarters, which shared the same boundary with the company premises.

The last time I heard of Julius, he was out of his well-paying job.

Don’t be deceived.

Sexual fantasy is not harmless fun. Okay, it starts as harmless fantasizing. But it doesn’t stop there. It eventually turns passionate and sinister wrecking everything you’ve known and loved.

Consider this.

Suppose you’ve been having this raging sexual fantasy about how sweet your sexy boss will taste in bed. You’ve been noticing her bobs and it just turns you on.

One day you’re working late. Everyone else has left the office except you. Even your boss has left . . . or so you thought.

Late in the evening someone opens your office door. To your surprise, it’s our boss.

She asks how your work is going. You explain the progress you’ve made so far. She expresses her appreciation for how thorough your work is.

You accept the compliment.

Then she sits at the edge of your table and takes off her tops. Stark naked before your eyes is the very thing you’ve spent sleepless nights fantasizing about.

What are your chances of saying a firm “No” and resisting her sexual advances?

Remember . . .

These are the very “things” you’ve been fantasizing about touching!

Your chances of resisting the temptation with success is zero . . . or near zero. You may just find yourself grabbing her offer even before she completes offering it.

I hope you get the point.

Sexual fantasy is deadly. If you want to remain chaste and loyal to your mate, you have to be careful what you meditate on . . . what you fantasize about.

Continued and sustained sexual fantasy about a sexual relationship with someone of the opposite sex (or of the same sex) destroys your defences. When the opportunity for sexual contact presents itself, you won’t be able to say no.

What happens to your relationship with your mate or fiance/fiancee when you succumb to such sexual temptations?

You destroy your mate’s trust. You destroy your marriage.

Sexual fantasy won’t pay you. Therefore , it is time to stop.

Feed your mind with healthy stuff. Fantasize about your wife. Build your world around her.

It’s the only sure way to marital success and everlasting happiness.