How to accept rejections-Love and Reasoning

By Christina Sponias

 If you believe that you should be the type who does everything to try and make the person who doesn’t want you love you, or that you should force him or her to belong to you, you better change your mind, for many reasons.

1. Rejection is not pleasant at all; everyone knows that. However, when your love is not reciprocated by the person you love, you have to have the dignity to accept this fact.

2. Step 2

   If you believe that you should be the type who does everything to try and make the person who doesn’t want you love you, or that you should force him or her to belong to you, you better change your mind, for many reasons:

3. Step 3

   The person you love may feel disgusted with your attitude and never want to have any kind of relationship with you.

4. Step 4

   You don’t have the right to force someone. You must respect the other person’s decision. If they don’t want you, your insistence is an attempt to violate their freedom.

5. Step 5

   If someone rejects you, he or she was unable to evaluate your qualities. If you want to be desired, you must give space and freedom to the person you love. If you suffocate them, you will cause a result that is the opposite of what you want—they will want to get rid of you no matter what, because you will be considered a parasite that doesn’t leave them alone.

6. Step 6

   The person you love may be loved by many others or may love someone else. Who are you to insist? If you are rejected, accept this fact thinking that it was better for you because this was not the right person for you. If he or she were the right person, the person would recognize you and would not hurt you so much.

7. Step 7

   Even if you manage to possess this person, if they don’t really want you, some day you’ll have a very sad shock and this will be the worst thing of your life: it will destroy everything. Then you’ll say that you were betrayed…. However, the truth is that you didn’t accept reality and you tried to force someone to love you, but their heart could not obey your orders.

8. Step 8

   This is a very big world, full of many people. Do you know how many men or women exist who are much better than the one that you love? There are many.

   You may believe they are too special and unique, but this is because you have not yet met the ideal person for you.

   Your perfect match will never reject you.

9. Step 9

   Look for the right person and forget those who don’t belong to you and never will.